It's incredibly easy to give yourself a Would Like to Meet-style body language/flirting makeover by using a combination of techniques. Try this four-point plan!

Step one - pinpoint the problem
Buy some books.There's a book to accompany the Would Like to Meet series which is packed with tips and hints, but there are loads more out there. Choose one good body language book and one which talks about flirting, then sit down with a coffee for a few hours.

Look around you. Try studying the body language and flirting skills of others. Watch couples and write down 10 non-verbal clues which tell you that they're romantically involved and do the same with couples that are arguing. Next, observe friends who are out together; strangers making small talk; family groups.

When you've done some field research, check your observations against your reference books. Are you on the right track? Once you understand the basics of body language, it all becomes much clearer.

Now turn the spotlight on yourself.If you can, get someone to video you walking, standing, sitting, talking to others (if not, ask a friend to watch you and make notes). It's usually quite obvious what posture changes you will benefit from. Additionally, check your books to find out how postures and positions are associated with different body language signals.

This should give you a clear idea of where you need help body language wise. If you think you're fine, move onto the flirting section - if not give one of the following a try.

Step two - get help from the experts
Education. Have a look at what's on offer at open universities, colleges and adult education. It might not be called body language, but anything which claims to help you communicate with people/raise self-esteem/influence people may be helpful. Another great source is business seminars. Some include presentations and sessions by body language experts.

Exercise and relaxation for the mind. Find your nearest fitness/health/mind, body and spirit centre and ask if they run pilates classes. Alternatively, try yoga or the Alexander Technique. All focus on building muscle strength of the inner torso which helps you to stand straighter, flatten your tummy and breathe properly. The end result: you look leaner, taller, more poised and confident.

Dance classes or the gym. If your posture is fine but it all falls apart when you walk, consider a dance class. Not only do they improve co-ordination, they help you develop a controlled sense of rhythm and become more body aware.

Step three - flirt queen or failure?
It's dead easy to work out whether you're a good flirt or not. If you have to ask yourself the question, you aren't. It's a bit like asking yourself if you fancy someone or not, the chemistry is there or it isn't - if it's love without lust, it's friendship.

Many people underestimate how good at flirting they actually are. Most simply fail to use their skills effectively, rendering them absolutely useless.

Get together with a friend and ask them to be honest. Do they agree you're not a good flirt? If the mere thought of batting your eyelashes/smoothing your hair is as natural to you as running naked through the Park, you'd best enlist some help from any of the experts below.

Take a flirting course. Believe it or not, there are weekend 'flirting' seminars and courses. Many you'll find by searching the internet under the subject 'flirting', others you'll come across in glossy magazines.

Step four - Get out there!
Put this theory into practice. So get out there and never underestimate the power of change. By altering even one, small, seemingly insignificant gesture (the angle of your shoulders, the way you meet someone's eyes) you can change your life dramatically - overnight. Don't believe me? Try it! You might be pleasantly surprised!